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Life Lessons

We are not here to be redeemed, or prove ourselves righteous. We are here to become, to learn. That’s all there is—lessons.

The lessons arrive according to plan, what we agreed to face. They are strung out, pearls of cause and effect, across the days of a life. Some come from failed challenges in past lives. Some from the shape and wiring of the body we were given.

As lessons arrive, we are free to learn or resist. And there is no guarantee we have the strength or tools to learn a given lesson at a given time. It’s all good. They will arrive again—in this life or some other.

Matthew McKay
by Matthew McKay

Matthew McKay is a clinical psychologist and a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. In 1979, he cofounded Haight Ashbury Psychological Services in San Francisco and served as its clinical director for twenty-five years. Currently he serves as the director of the Berkeley Cognitive Behavior Therapy Clinic. He has explored spiritual and afterlife issues in two previous books: Why? and Your Life on Purpose. He is also the author of professional and self-help psychology books, including Thoughts & Feelings, Messages, Mind and Emotions, Self-Esteem, Prisoners of Belief, and many others.

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