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We are here — each of us — for a reason. And the pain we face — each of us on this planet — comes for a reason.

Pain is the path to truth. It refracts light to reveal things not otherwise seen. In the heart of pain is a moment when the universe, and our place within it, becomes more visible. This is a story of entering that moment, of listening to what pain teaches.

Six years ago, I lost something more precious than my own life. At that moment, I began the journey you’ll find in this book. I wanted to know the truth about why we are here and what happens after death. So far I have learned this: Nothing is truly lost. Nothing. The soul is constant,
never broken. Pain seems to damage us, but the damage is
an illusion. The idea of safety or protection is an illusion. It is all safe — everything we love.

This is the story of how I came to know these things. I am not a psychic or a medium; I am not clairaudient. I am, rather, a psychologist with a deep love of science. I am a researcher who conducts randomized, controlled trials. I’d never expected to take this journey. But as I have learned, in the heart of pain exist things I’d never imagined.

Matthew McKay
by Matthew McKay

Matthew McKay is a clinical psychologist and a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. In 1979, he cofounded Haight Ashbury Psychological Services in San Francisco and served as its clinical director for twenty-five years. Currently he serves as the director of the Berkeley Cognitive Behavior Therapy Clinic. He has explored spiritual and afterlife issues in two previous books: Why? and Your Life on Purpose. He is also the author of professional and self-help psychology books, including Thoughts & Feelings, Messages, Mind and Emotions, Self-Esteem, Prisoners of Belief, and many others.

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